1. “Perhaps the biggest tragedy of our lives is that freedom is possible, yet we can pass our years trapped in the same old patterns…We may want to love other people without holding back, to feel authentic, to breathe in the beauty around us, to dance and sing. Yet each day we listen to inner voices that keep our life small.” ― Tara Brach
  2. “Pain is not wrong. Reacting to pain as wrong initiates the trance of unworthiness. The moment we believe something is wrong, our world shrinks and we lose ourselves in the effort to combat the pain.” ― Tara Brach
  3. “Imperfection is not our personal problem – it is a natural part of existing.” ― Tara Brach
  4. “The boundary to what we can accept is the boundary to our freedom.” ― Tara Brach
  5. “Radical Acceptance is the willingness to experience ourselves and our lives as it is.” ― Tara Brach
  6. “This revolutionary act of treating ourselves tenderly can begin to undo the aversive messages of a lifetime.” ― Tara Brach
  7. “What would it be like if I could accept life–accept this moment–exactly as it is?” ― Tara Brach
  8. “Awakening self-compassion is often the greatest challenge people face on the spiritual path.” ― Tara Brach
  9. “On this sacred path of Radical Acceptance, rather than striving for perfection, we discover how to love ourselves into wholeness.” ― Tara Brach
  10. “Observing desire without acting on it enlarges our freedom to choose how we live.” ― Tara Brach
  11. “Suffering is our call to attention, our call to investigate the truth of our beliefs.” ― Tara Brach
  12. “The only way to live is by accepting each minute as an unrepeatable miracle.” ― Tara Brach
  13. “There is something wonderfully bold and liberating about saying yes to our entire imperfect and messy life.” ― Tara Brach
  14. “We can’t understand the nature of reality until we let go of controlling our experience.” ― Tara Brach
  15. “Spiritual awakening is the process of recognizing our essential goodness, our natural wisdom and compassion.” ― Tara Brach
  16. “Nothing is wrong-whatever is happening is just “real life.” – Tara Brach
  17. “Anyone that causes suffering is suffering. Our hatred and our punishing does not help. Vengeance is a lazy form of grief and fear. IT’s a false refuge.” – Tara Brach
  18. “When we put down ideas of what life should be like; we are free to wholeheartedly say yes to our life as it is.” – Tara Brach
  19. “When I accept myself just as I am, I am free from the burden of need you to accept me.” – Tara Brach
  20. “No matter how much we meditate or pray, we still need others to help us dismantle the walls of our isolate and remind us of our belonging.” – Tara Brach
  21. “Whatever we can’t embrace with love imprisons us.” – Tara Brach
  22. “To love someone is to learn the song in their heart and sing it to them when they have forgotten it.” – Tara Brach
  23. “Often the moment when we most need to pause is exactly when it feels most intolerable to do so.” – Tara Brach
  24. “Every flower must grow through dirt.” – Tara Brach
  25. “Our attitude in the face of life’s challenges determines our suffering or our freedom.” – Tara Brach
  26. “As happens in any addiction, the behaviors we use to keep us from pain only fuel our suffering. Not only do our escape strategies amplify the feeling that something is wrong with us, they stop us from attending to the very part of ourselves that most need our attention to heal.” – Tara Brach
  27. “The more deeply we feel flawed and unlovable, the more desperately we run from the clutches of the shadow. Yet by running from what we fear, we feed the inner darkness. Whenever we reject a part of our being, we are confirming to ourselves our fundamental unworthiness.” – Tara Brach
  28. “When someone says to us, as Thich Nhat Hanh suggests, “Darling, I care about your suffering.” a deep healing begins.” – Tara Brach
  29. “The very nature of our heart is to care.” – Tara Brach
  30. “We are all journeying through the night with plans, breathing in and out this mysterious life.” – Tara Brach
  31. “When we feel and release the past pain held in our body, we become increasingly free to meet our present feelings with a wakeful and kind heart. We discover, as Rumi writes, “The cure for the pain is in the pain.” – Tara Brach
  32. “If we accept pain without the confusion of fear, we can listen to its message and respond with clarity.” – Tara Brach
  33. “R

Recognize what’s going on.


Allow the experience to be there, just as it is.


Investigate with kindness


Natural awareness, which comes from not identifying with the experience.” – Tara Brach