Have you ever questioned why you feel the way that you do about anything in particular?
I’m not referring to the feelings that you have that you instantly justify without giving them a second thought.
I’m talking about the feelings that you have developed from the point of view that the world has, the point of view of that of the collective mind.
The collective mind is the average way of thinking and feeling about everything which is the foundational viewpoint from which all creative thoughts happen from.
It also doesn’t matter who it is, no matter how much of a free thinker or rebel that you believe you are.
We are all conditioned and programmed in certain ways in relation to the rest of the world.
Everyone has certain thoughts they have learned and have taken them to be based on absolute reality.
The conditioning and programming that has altered the entire chemistry and biology of your being is not something that is bad.
Being conditioned and programmed is a part of being a human being and having a human mind; it is not bad.
However, if you don’t look at where your conditioning has come from and how it has affected your core truth from within, then it can block you off from finding that peace or the inner OK-ness from within, in this very instant.
It is not always the conditioning and programming that blocks us from joy, it’s that you believe in everything that has been conditioned into your mind.
It’s the lack of awareness of who you are in the absolute sense beyond the mind.
It has not yet been realized by most of the world that the collective mind goes out of its way to create you into its own image. This image that the world is trying to create for you is generally what people think you “should be.”
In the ever flow of life and freedom of creativity there are no ‘should’ and ‘should not’s’.
This is the way “you” should feel about something and this is the way you “should not” feel about something means that if you are feeling a particular way in this moment, you should go out of your way to neglect that feeling.
And this goes against “what is” the greatest barrier to being aware of the peace that you are.
The one inner body awareness that can exist within all emotions (such as feeling happy, feeling joyful, sadness, anger and resentfulness) is peace.
Every single emotion and feeling is coming and going as a result of the way you are in you’re thinking and interpreting your life situation.
Whereas, peace is realizing that you are fine in this moment, regardless of what emotions you’re having.
Peace is the realization (through inner body awareness) that you are right here, without the mind knowing it.
Peace is realizing that this inner body aliveness in this moment is perfect as it is.
Transmuting pain into peace does not mean there will not continue to be pain, it’s that no longer do you not need there to be pain, you’re OK regardless.
“I should feel happy all of the time” is the attachment to feeling a particular way at any point in time, and it will cause a great deal of suffering.
“I should be happy but I’m not” means that not only are you not happy, you have created a story in your mind about why you should not be.
This story that you tell yourself over and over in the mind is taking the pain of being unhappy, prolonging it,and deepening the pain into suffering.
It is our need and attachment to happiness and pleasure that is causing us the emotional pain.
Acceptance means, that NO MATTER how you are feeling at any point in time, you are aware of it and have accepted it, without judgment or condemnation.
The conditioning that has been hardwired into the mind will begin to start believing that we should go after peace, and yet again, that is the last thing we ‘should’ feel at any particular time.
Thinking is not the result of finding anything that your mind can create; it is the very mind itself that you are trying to let go of.
Sometimes there will be resistance, there will be mind and that too is OK.
The ego finds itself by creating problems and if you make not being aware of the present moment into a problem, then the ego has won and created more pain.
Peace isn’t any particular emotional state.
Peace is realizing that everything is neutral through the non-movement of mind that flows simultaneously along with any emotions.
Letting the non-movement happen is an acceptance of allowing yourself be OK in whatever emotional state arises.
Peace is the awareness that, without words inside of the body, that would translate to something like “I am having this painful emotion and that is OK.”
It is the knowing that who I am (really am) is not the thought or the emotion but the one who watches the fluctuation between pain and conscious presence.
On the flip side how do you truly expect to enjoy pleasurable experiences if you are worried about losing the pleasurable experiences that you are having?
The inner knowing that “This too shall pass” allows you to enjoy the pleasurable experiences your are having to a much greater extent because you have not identified who you are with how you are feeling.
In other words, the pleasurable experience is not going to fulfill you, so you do NOT need it in order to feel free inside.
Pleasure will not make you and the lack of it will not break you.
If who you really are is not the emotion, then who are you?
Are the emotions of feeling mad, sad, angry or the other several hundred emotions that there are who “you” really are?
Who you really are is not the emotion, it is the one who witnesses the emotion, and even when joy, happiness and pleasure happen, don’t get attached thinking it is you.
It is the very attachment to happiness that will block you from true everlasting peace and joy.
So what is the difference between happiness and peace?
Happiness needs “good” things (as the way the mind perceives them) to happen in life situationally or circumstantially; whereas, peace “accepts what is” even in uncomfortable times.
If everything is neutral from beyond the way your mind perceives it, then what else is a situation or circumstance other than the way your mind is interpreting this physical world?
In other words, when you are interpreting the way that life is, your mind is visualizing the present moment through the eyes of the past.
This means that the mind is still stuck in the past.
Accepting “what is” means first accepting the way that the mind is interpreting reality.
It means being aware of how you are seeing life and accepting that.
You are accepting that you are visualizing the present moment through the past and that is OK.
However, allow this to bring you completely in the present moment and to see everything (which is a nothing) as complete neutrality.
It is a stateless state, conscious aware presence that is witnessing everything. Thus, there is no more mind to create any situation.
And this too goes for your misery. The only reason that people believe that they are happy in their misery is that they are afraid of losing who they ‘think’ that they are.
Who you are is invisible, it is not happy or unhappy, you are.
In aworld that says you need to BE SOMEBODY or SOMETHING, it’s not surprising that people are afraid of losing who they are, which makes losing who you think you are impossible.
You are nothing, invisible, ungraspable and yet, without the mind knowing it, you can feel the direct evidence through the body that you are alive right here, also known as fulfillment itself.
The thinking is what creates this “Me or myself” and is what creates the emotion, but it is NOT who “I” really am.
To be somebody in rational terms is the non-acceptance of who and what “you” really are, which is, full stop.
So going forward you “should” or “should not” feel in any particular way about anything, but to understand your feelings, accept them in that present moment and know that in the wise words of Eckhart Tolle