“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” — Rumi
I used to think that love was the most powerful force on the face of the planet, but what I had not yet realized yet, is that love is not just merely a force.
Love is all that is.
There are many things that can be said to be infinite, the galaxy, eternity, but the single most phenomenon that exists as universe, as consciousness and as God, is Love.
Love is realizing a wave is the ocean, meaning that you are not separate from the totality of the universe and everything in it.
Love can be expressed in many ways, as the nature of love is formless, limitless. You cannot actually give one single definition to it, because to define it means to define infinity, and infinity is limitless.
Let’s take a glance at how we can express love, which, in essence, is to express our soul.
#1. Turn Your Love Inwards
The first and the last love is, and always will be, inward. Hermes Trismegistus sums this up perfectly when he says….
“As above, so below, as within, so without, as the universe, so the soul…”
“As within, so without” is referring simply and perfectly to the way in which inward reality, also known as consciousness, has a direct reflection on the outer reality.
Outer reality is a mirror of your inner reality; it is a line of symmetry.
To find out what love is, you have to look within. It will be impossible for you to fully, unconditionally express it outwardly until that fire of love has sparked and become a magnificent flame inwardly.
What does it mean to fully love your self?
You accept who you are in this moment at this moment, with no intentions to change yourself in any way, shape, or form.
Full acceptance means first understanding how you think, how you feel, your emotions and fully accepting them in any given point in time.
This even means the “negative or bad” thoughts that you have, because usually they are bad according to societies “conditions.”
And when you see that you give yourself condemnation or self-punishment, don’t ignore it, accept that for this moment this is the way you feel, but see it, paralyze that thought, feeling or emotion like in the stare of a cat.
Look at some point we all have a guilty conscious about ourselves.
Rather than condemning yourself disapproval, catch it in its tracks by being aware of it and just witness it with a neutral mind, and the pure presence that arises will be love.
Part 2. Loving Outwardly
With Loving presence being the basic foundation of all love, we are still in a physical world of form, and we can express our loves outwardly in a way that can send our love into people like a lighting strike traveling through a storm.
Love doesn’t have a set of rules, which it goes by; it is infinite, and in infinity there are no rules.
With that being said this isn’t just about your friends, your family, your spouse, this is about everyone you come into contact with.
Here are 4 ways to love someone….
Just as you give yourself the permission to fully accept yourself unconditionally in this moment unconditionally, that same love can be given to people with whom you come in contact.
We all have different minds, different levels of thinking and different dimensions of awareness.
What I mean by dimensions of awareness is that everyone processes information differently, the dimension in which you process information differently is different than the dimension in which I process.
With this being said, we are bound to have differences, likes, dislikes, morals and beliefs.
Outlooks on life are generally speaking going to be unique from one person to the next, in some way, shape, form or fashion.
Beliefs are limited to the yin and yang of the dualistic world, and in this world, beliefs, and perspectives are limited in infinite ways.
But again, even if love is infinite, why should you place your love towards the world with your limiting beliefs.
This is not, directed towards anybody in particular, but to the very nature that beliefs are limited, to their time frame, cultural makeup, religious back ground, heritage, DNA and many other factors.
The rhetorical answer to this is: you will see your outlook with a grain of and, a tool but only a tool.
The world is conditional, always subject to change, but love is eternal, never changes and neither should yours.
#2. Giving Them Space
We all like to feel loved and close to others, and we certainly like those we genuine love to know it.
But sometimes our affection towards someone can become overboard to the point where people get a bit claustrophobic when we get up all in their grill.
Sometimes in the case of love, less is more.
Not less from the standpoint of your love towards someone but in terms of giving them wings.
And in this case, giving the people you love space is the best thing you can do to keep a healthy relationship.
We all like to be comfortable and free flowing, and one of the best ways that someone can allow others to express their wings of freedom is by giving them space.
#3. Love Can’t Be Traded
From a young kid we begin to look at mommy and daddy from the standpoint of what we can get out of them; this is common for a kid right?
Well the challenge when it comes to love is that it goes from a kid and transitions into adulthood for a lot of people’s lives.
Rather than looking at someone for what they are in the moment, we have adopted this way of looking at someone for what they can give us.
This is not the way that unconditional love works. It means that you see a person as they are at any point in time minus your beliefs about who they are, and you love that person with no conditions attached.
The healthiest form of relationship is to not want anything from someone based on our labels attached to that person.
#4. Giving Them Presence
The other day I went out to breakfast and noticed that a couple had come in, and the girl was sitting there eating her breakfast and the guy next her was on his phone the entire time.
Now, I’m not sure what kind of relationship that they had, or if she really cared. There are more and more relationships that have turned into the kind where technology is the relationship itself.
With technology on a rise, and attention spans are on the decline; conversations are reduced to half the attention on that person and half of it is either caught up in technology or soaked up by their own mind.
True love is when you begin having a conversation with someone by giving your entire attention (presence) to that person rather than being elsewhere, whether it’s wandering off in your own mind or on the phone or caught up with other technology.
Humor is Gods way of saying don’t take life too seriously.
One of the best ways that you can show someone that there is actually more to life than stress and worry is by showing them a brighter side.
Laughing and smiling is great way to release endorphins that in laymen’s terms are the chemicals in the body that cause stress.
Life isn’t meant to be taken seriously to the point of suffering and constant worry. Be like a child and laugh your way to love.
Joy happens when you fully understand that there is only one SUSTAINABLE fulfillment in this life and that is your inward reality, AKA Conscious presence.
When you become fully empty inside, which means that you are experiencing presence, and again means that you’re looking inward, then you will come to the core of your being which is Joy.
Joy is when you don’t look at the world outside of you for your fulfillment, your complete freedom; it is your inward fulfillment, which is the only significant fulfillment that there is.
When you have come back home inside, then being and joy will merge. When this happens, then you will illuminate the earth with love.
You will turn into an earthquake of love; your joy and your love will become ONE.
Part 3: No more inner and outer.
#7. Ascending into Oneness.
“Love is the recognition of oneness in the world of duality.” – Eckhart Tolle
Duality in this case meaning more than one.
The human mind has split the world in trillions of different labels almost to the extent of splitting an atom.
This makes us see the world as though there are as many different realities as there are people and all the life forms combined.
However, because the human mind is a small component of consciousness, it can only see the divisions that the mind creates.
It can only see the space between you and me.
The only way that true love can blossom is to realize your felt oneness with all that exists.
The key term is to realize, not to believe; realize as in it has to penetrate your entire being.
“Enlightenment is when a wave realizes it’s the ocean.” – Thich Nhat Hanh
And to be enlightened is too awaken to this love, to this absolute oneness.